Thank you for those who replied.
I got frustrated late last night and instead of throwing everything out of the window. I pretty much changed every settings on both pi's lol. What kicked in proxies reading each other pi's correctly with the info saying CONNECTED 1 card or 2 cards. Was a setting under config / cccam on the webif, called "Node ID" all i did was change the very last digit from a 6 to a 7 and boom all started working. No idea what that setting did, and maybe this number was the same from another server that i was replacing which i stopped port forwarding to. Who knows, but that is what i did that made everything start working. I at somepoint want to play with the cachex but i am scared now i got things working.
Thanks again you wonderful people